Always A Burden
Having depression
and anxiety is hard and it sucks. There are obvious reasons why mental illness
is no fun, but one of the hardest things for me right now on my journey in
fighting this is how selfish I have to be. I have to work on myself; because,
whether I like it or not, I am the only one who can fight the monster that
often takes residence in my head. I have to spend my days working on myself and
checking in with myself to make sure I'm okay. Not only do I not get to do a
majority of the stuff I want to do because my body has other plans, but I also
don't really get to be the person I want to be.
I used to pride
myself on the kind of person I was, whether it was in the role of daughter,
sister, friend, mentor, or so on. A relationship is two sided, full of give and
take, where both people benefit. At this point in time, I feel like I'm failing
at that. I feel like I'm a bad daughter, sister, friend, etc. I feel like I
just take and don't have anything to give. It's hard to have to be selfish. I
don't want to, but it's the only way I'll survive right now. I feel like I'm a
burden on everyone around me because I don't have much to contribute as I'm
busy taking care of myself. I feel like these selfish ways project an image of
not having time for my family and friends. I feel that I project this person
that people can only talk to if they are asking how I am doing. I know most of
this is made up in my mind but it is still how I feel. I still want to be a
great friend and no matter how hard I may be struggling I still will always be
there for the people in my life. Maybe it's not as constant or as well as
before but I still want to be there for my people, especially those that have
so generously dealt with me during this hard time.
Since my world has
to completely revolve around me right now, I feel like the immediate people
around me have to focus on me too and therefore I feel like I'm always a
burden, especially to my parents. Now I know that most of that is made up in my
mind; because, although my parents will do anything for me, they are still
living their own lives. It's just hard. It's hard to have to feel so dependent
and to always need help. I hate that my parents always have to check in with me
before they do something and that there are times they won't leave me because
I'm having a hard time. I am forever grateful for this but I also feel
incredibly guilty for it. I hate feeling like a burden, but I don't know how to
convince myself that the people that are still in my life and by my side
through all this don't see me as a burden and still want me in their lives.
Like I've said
nothing has been done to make me feel like other people think I'm a burden but
I still can't shake that feeling. If anyone has any advice on how to get over
this feeling I would love to hear it. For now I'll start with having these
quotes on repeat.
Until next time. 💜
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